It happens more than one would think. At least a few times a year a mom or dad will call, generally because their "baby" lives out of state and has expressed an interest in moving back home to Maine. Often moms are all over that and start doing the research, checking out JobsInME, networking with friends, and calling people like me. This may or may not be great for the family dynamics. I can assure you that it is never a good tactic for a job search. The contact this week reached new highs (or lows) of parental uber support.
It started with an email in which the gentleman in question (let's call him "Dad") contacted me saying he wasn't a recruiter nor a candidate but that he was interested in one of my ads and may have some people to refer to me. So I called him. We discussed the job a bit. With any call of this type I don't reveal much more information than can be found in the ad. Then Dad told me the real reason for his call. He has a son (let's call him "Son") who he thinks would be great for this job. But Son isn't working out of state, he is right here in Maine. So why did Dad call?
Evidently, Dad is managing his son's career as if he were managing the career of an actor or golf pro. Son is working in the same industry as Dad and when Son graduated from college, Dad said, "I placed him with XYZ company." Dad didn't think Son received enough mentoring there but. "I let him stay in XYZ for two years and then brought him to DEF Group, unfortunately it is a similar situation." (Lack of mentoring.)
Dad said he knew the manager at DEF and (real quote), "I interviewed (that manager) for Son". I asked a few clarifying questions and yes, he did have lunch with and interview his son's potential employer and to see whether it would be a good fit for Son.
I was stunned, but I successfully remained neutral until the end. After a bit more discussion, Dad asked if he could have Son call me and I said that Son would have to read the ad, and respond like every other candidate before I would talk with him. I did also say that I would be happy to receive and review Son's information. Dad still wanted Son to call me and I requested again that he not call prior to sending the information. I was frankly done with Dad. We ended the call cordially but I did let him know that if Son applies and is moved forward, I would advise my clients not to meet with Dad at all. I stated "You will not interview my client."
I have not received any information from Son. Frankly, I suggest he move to Seattle.